{"id":11800,"date":"2021-01-22T21:19:05","date_gmt":"2021-01-23T02:19:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.holytrinityweb.com\/weekly\/?p=11800"},"modified":"2021-01-22T21:27:32","modified_gmt":"2021-01-23T02:27:32","slug":"habits-tools-for-doing-good-or-bad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.holytrinityweb.com\/weekly\/habits-tools-for-doing-good-or-bad\/","title":{"rendered":"Habits. Tools For Doing Good . . . or Bad."},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Do you remember some of the things you used to do over and over as a kid? Little, personal and sometimes quirky activities that you\u2019d do when things got boring or you started getting nervous?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My sister Maureen would suck her thumb. My buddy Terry used to bite his fingernails. Maybe you had a special blanket you would take everywhere. Later in life my father and I battled cigarettes (I still struggle!). We call repeated actions habits; we do them without thinking. They relieve tension or anxiety and bring a mild pleasure or calming effect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some habits are healthy and benefit people whenever they do them. \u201cThat\u2019s a good habit to get into,\u201d we say. (Brush your teeth\/eat your vegetables.) Other repeated actions can hurt us or others. These are bad habits. Some are bad (e.g. Lying) because the act itself is bad. We call these \u201csinful habits\u201d. Others are bad because they go too far (\u201cToo much\u201d of anything is a bad habit) or not far enough (sloth, or carelessness) in doing the right thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So . . . what\u2019s the point? It\u2019s simple. Get in the habit of doing good things. How? Repetition. Doing something again and again will bring a certain ease of performance. A good thing, once rather hard to perform (choosing not to gossip) can, with repetition, become easier. Parents, I can\u2019t stress this enough. \u201cRepetition\u201d of good actions is essential to learning the happiness of the moral life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Our bodies themselves bear witness to this. Sit-ups\/push- ups (yuk!) become easier with repetition. Fitness experts call this the \u201ctraining effect\u201d – – – ease in physical performance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s really no different for our spiritual lives. Repetition makes for habit. Habit makes for virtue (an abiding strength). Virtue leads to happiness. Want to be happy? Keep on doing good. Simple, eh?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s take matters of sexuality. I don\u2019t think anyone of us is immune to the \u201csinful habit\u201d that can develop in our thoughts or actions as we confront images or lustful im- pulses that can happen each day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Our eyes, by nature, \u201cwant to see\u201d. And here\u2019s the prob- lem; some things ought not to be seen. They are not ours to have. Those intimate parts of our bodies belong to a spousal partner. They are the \u201cgift of self\u201d we give to whom we are promised. (This is the real evil of pornography – – it twists the Godly desire for physical love into a \u201ctaking\u201d or \u201cusing\u201d of another for satisfying lustful, voyeuristic needs).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are two time honored habits encouraged by spiritual directors to help in the struggle for purity. The first is called \u201ccustody of the eyes\u201d. It refers to a mental readiness to turn away from seeing things that lead to lust.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, there are repeated ways of acting we call \u201cmodesty\u201d, (the way we dress, speak, the way we look at one another, become habits leading to the virtue of \u201cchastity\u201d or \u201cpurity\u201d. (Keeping in mind of course that our sexuality is a wonderful thing, we must not become \u201cprudes\u201d. We are not afraid of our sexuality).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The point here is to make clear these virtuous states don\u2019t \u201cjust happen\u201d. In fact, when left to nature, the opposite happens. Lust grows, not purity. Lies, not truth. Selfish- ness, not generosity. It\u2019s part of our fallen human nature that this tendency exists.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can only be remedied by \u201chabits of love\u201d, actions of reverence for others and ourselves motivated by the knowledge of who we are . . . God\u2019s beloved children. And this friends is the way to JOY.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everyone of us, God\u2019s Children \u2013 no exceptions. Bless your heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n


Fr. Tim<\/p>\n\n\n\n


PS. A great habit? Morning prayer.<\/p>\n\"Facebook\"<\/a>\"twitter\"<\/a>\"linkedin\"<\/a>\"mail\"<\/a>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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