{"id":14960,"date":"2021-08-06T20:37:24","date_gmt":"2021-08-07T01:37:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.holytrinityweb.com\/weekly\/?p=14960"},"modified":"2021-08-06T21:05:11","modified_gmt":"2021-08-07T02:05:11","slug":"falling-in-love-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.holytrinityweb.com\/weekly\/falling-in-love-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Falling in Love"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Looking at the bulletin the past few weeks the topics for the article have been so serious. This week I thought to write about something younger people are concerned with . . . like . . . falling in love. (Share this with your children or grandchildren.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you think of the human experiences that most change and motivate our lives, falling in love has to be right near the top. I\u2019ve seen selfish, sullen, sarcastic 22 year old men suddenly become thoughtful, generous, and gentle. The reason? They met someone to love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s a fantastic feeling, isn\u2019t it? To think that someone who makes me weak in the knees whenever they are near . . . actually feels the same way about ME!! \u201cFinally\u201d, we say, \u201cI\u2019ve met the person just meant for me! They make me feel so good.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Been there? Lucky you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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What causes these powerful feelings in us? In no small part it\u2019s hormones. Our bodies are speaking to us, telling us we need to be thinking about finding someone to continue the human species. This profound emotional swelling is meant to help us fulfill one of the purposes of life — children, family, home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is how God made us. These feelings are holy, ultimately to be shared with the one who will be a partner for life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But then . . . like a summer\u2019s day, the feelings can change. Life has other things that have to be dealt with: work, finances, life goals, etc. The thrill of first love becomes a steady, every day, sometimes boring, \u201cpresence\u201d to each other. Young lovers can sometimes feel their hearts have tricked them. \u201cHe\/She is not as exciting as they used to be.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve been with young married couples who feel they\u2019ve \u201cfallen out of love\u201d. Perhaps this IS NOT<\/strong> the one meant for me. Maybe we made a mistake. It can be scary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If a couple has been honest with themselves and each other along the way, what is happening is quite normal. God is leading them to a deeper experience of love. Though sex appeal and passion will always have great value something deeper is happening – – if they let it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The lovers are beginning to experience the essence of love . . . self-sacrifice. The concern is no longer \u201cHow She\/He makes me feel\u201d. Love is now learning to seek first the happiness of the beloved. The partner\u2019s happiness becomes the happiness for the one who loves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s no longer about you. It\u2019s about the beloved. Here is where some can\u2019t deal with the switch. When I\u2019m not getting the same feelings I must not be in love, they think. Some abandon ship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u2665 So permit this old man to suggest a few clues that tell you you\u2019re truly in love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2665 You\u2019re basically happy when you\u2019re around that person (not ecstatic, just happy).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2665 You admire and respect that person more than most of your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2665 You feel honored to be loved and respected by them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2665 Even if that person would never meet you, (if you could only watch them from afar), you would still find them lovable without their loving you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2665 You\u2019re transparent with them because they are your dear friend.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2665 You know they would be a good mother\/father.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2665 You know they are not the perfect person, nor will they bring you total happiness . . . and that\u2019s okay.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2665 You\u2019re willing to stop comparing him\/her to others. They\u2019re the one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2665 You\u2019ve seen him\/her in difficult situations and they have re-acted with kindness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2665 A kiss on the cheek from them always brings comfort in the storm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lastly. The person described above is a GIFT, not someone you can order up by wanting it. And if by chance God doesn\u2019t give you this gift, He\u2019s got something else just as good for you . . . because he made you and loves you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bless you always. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fr. Tim<\/p>\n\"Facebook\"<\/a>\"twitter\"<\/a>\"linkedin\"<\/a>\"mail\"<\/a>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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