{"id":5745,"date":"2019-10-07T18:50:06","date_gmt":"2019-10-07T18:50:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.holytrinityweb.com\/weekly\/?p=5745"},"modified":"2019-10-07T19:11:30","modified_gmt":"2019-10-07T19:11:30","slug":"parents-dont-be-embarrassed","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.holytrinityweb.com\/weekly\/parents-dont-be-embarrassed\/","title":{"rendered":"Parents: Don\u2019t be Embarrassed."},"content":{"rendered":"\n
\"Embarrasssed\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

The fear of embarrassment causes more people to shut\ndown and hide than nearly any other experience. To feel\ntotally exposed to strangers, or those closest to us for that\nmatter; there\u2019s nothing quite like it.\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Think of those times when fear of embarrassment took\nhold of you. How about: singing at mass, dancing while\nsober, holding hands, taking your drivers test, speaking a\nforeign language, getting your tax filing audited, asking\nsomeone out for the first time, that first kiss . . . and the\ngreatest fear of all? Public speaking.\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s a ton of them.\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And what is it that grips us so tightly, that freezes us up?\nI think it\u2019s the possibility of being laughed at, ridiculed\nor rejected. In that scary moment we\u2019re just \u201cout there\u201d,\nunguarded, vulnerable. The slightest smirk, or roll of the\neyes means total rejection. We\u2019ve all experienced it and\nwe never want it to happen again.\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s why children stop acting like children. Their free, silly, exuberance has met disapproval. \u201cThere must be something wrong with me\u201d is the message we get. And so we begin to protect ourselves (a necessary adjustment to life at times). But it can come at a cost of never investing ourselves in what we truly believe. We can turn our back on things dearest and most important to us. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why did Peter deny the Lord three times? (One of them to a little servant girl!) (Luke 22: 54-62<\/a>). He was scared and embarrassed. We all know the feeling. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Parents and grandparents are expected to get over this\nfear . . . if only for the sake of children and spouse. You\nare supposed to be bigger than your fears (or at least be\nwilling to confront them) for the sake of what you love\nand hold true.\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But still the feelings of embarrassment harass us. As a priest I see it when it comes to speaking about your faith in God. Many have gotten away from the religion of their youth (when talking about loving God came as easily as speaking of your love for the family dog.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We remember the times in life we have strayed. Perhaps\nthe practice of the Catholic Faith has become spotty at\nbest. Consequently, we feel like hypocrites when we talk\nabout God or the commandments or prayer. \u201cIf the guys\nat work heard me saying these things to my child, they\u2019d\nhowl with laughter.\u201d So we console ourselves with the\nthought that at least I\u2019m not being a phony . . . and we say\nnothing.\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This won\u2019t do. We need to be bigger than our embarrassment. There are some things \u201cyou just know in your bones\u201d. Stay true to them. Things like: God has given me this child. I\u2019ve experienced a love for them I never knew I was capable of. When I surrender to God\u2019s plan for me (my here and now), I see how I can add goodness without embarrassment. I can witness to the God I KNOW FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCE. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Six simple things you can do with your child to witness to\nthe faith God has given to you.\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. Send your child off to school, to bed, to sports, with the Sign of the Cross traced lightly on their forehead. \u201cGod bless you, and protect you. In the Name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit\u201d is all you need to say. <\/li>
  2. Tell your child, \u201cI\u2019m praying for you.\u201d You don\u2019t know what this knowledge will do for your child. <\/li>
  3. Ask for your child\u2019s prayers. Something like, \u201cI need your help today. Would you pray that my meeting goes well today?\u201d Kids want to help. <\/li>
  4. Tell your child when you\u2019ve experienced God in your life. \u201cI looked at you when you were born and I just knew God had blessed me.\u201d <\/li>
  5. Share your embarrassment with your child. Something like, . . . \u201cyou know, I\u2019m not the best at this but maybe TOGETHER we can learn about God.\u201d <\/li>
  6. Bring your child to mass. There is no substitute for this. <\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Love will help you get over your embarrassment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Fr. Tim <\/p>\n\n\n

    \n

    Scripture Readings for the 27th Sunday in Ordinary Time (all)<\/a><\/span><\/h4>\n

    First Reading: Habakkuk 1:2-3<\/a>, 2:2-4<\/a>
    \nResponsorial Psalm:     Psalm 95:1-2<\/a>, 6-7<\/a>, 8-9<\/a>
    \nSecond Reading:     2 Timothy 1:6-8<\/a>, 13-14<\/a>
    \nGospel:     Luke 17:5-10<\/a><\/p>\n

    Scripture Readings for the 28th Sunday in Ordinary Time (all)<\/a><\/span><\/h4>\n

    First Reading: Exodus 17:8-13<\/a>
    \nResponsorial Psalm: Psalm     121:1-8<\/a>
    \nSecond Reading:     2 Timothy 3:14-4:2<\/a>
    \nGospel:     Luke 18:1-8<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\"Facebook\"<\/a>\"twitter\"<\/a>\"linkedin\"<\/a>\"mail\"<\/a>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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